change!

Change is inevitable, we all know that,yet some people resist it, we maybe one of them, the only person who likes it is a wet baby.
why! I don't know! maybe that we used how things are, we like it this way, for someone who's living a happy life of course he wouldn't see it changing, but i heared stories about some people who had certain cases that could be solved, and their situation could be changed but they refused that, i never knew why, may be because they are afraid.
When we face an expected change or unexpected, the first thing we think about is how can recover what we had, may be it's because there's a part of us feels like we failed when life takes us by surprise, or may be we are scared that this change will take us to wrong places, or ruin our lives, but you'll never know unless you try, maybe i'll turn your live to something you never imagined before; a good change! after all, progress is impossible without change,  

maybe you'll make one of your dream come true thanks to this change that your trying to resist, have an open mind, accept it, then get the best of it even if you think that it's a bad turn to your life, change is like opportunity to explore more, to know more. 
"Change is the law of life, and those who look only to the past or present are certain to miss the future" - John Kennedy- so don't waste time thinking about whether this turn will work for you, is it good,? what will I gain from it!? before you miss it and can't go back to it! 

 The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the danse! so go ahead and seize the day! ;)

overcoming adversity!

Every one has his own story, different than ours, may be similar, but the thing which is mutual between us is that everyone faced a wall in life, that thought to be impassable, we aren't that unlike, you may don't believe it, but there's at least one person in the world is going through the same situation you're facing, or faced it before in his life, so try to talk to others about what you are up against, may be their experience helps you, or their mistakes to avoid problems.
When I struggle or feel like my world is falling apart, I remember that I can do amazing things when I choose to be strong, when I recall that I am strong.
We all are, we all are survivors, we have overcome all adversity, we have all had our share of battles, we have our moments when we thought that we won't make it alive, that the whole world is against us, when we've fallen so low we've questioned if we could lift ourselves up, yet we have. We've gotten smarter, bolder, braver, and wiser from these struggles, we've endured, may be not right away, and maybe not easily , but bounced back from hard times, moreover we have proven to ourselves that our spirits are stronger than anything that could threaten to break it.
 Strength does not come from winning, your struggles develop your strengths. When you go through hardships and decide not to surrender that's strength, character can not be developed in ease and quiet, only through experience soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, success achieved. ;)

love yourself

Self loving 

 Loving your self  is the foundation for finding your inner-peace, it's the only way to love other people and your life; so you can enjoy it, it is your way to happiness. 
We should all be more compassionate to ourselves,yes; we all feel broken, wounded, alone at times but  we have to stop being so hard on ourselves, every one make mistakes, who hasn't , it's Ok, to feel the way we're feeling now, we don't have to fight it, we just have to acknowledge it, try to understand it instead of judging it.
So much of our resistance to loving our selves has to do with the shame, the thought that there's something wrong with us for what we're going through; we are all important and we matter, we are valuable, even with all our flaws and weaknesses, therefore we should accept ourselves more and judge it less, and seek less for the approval to feel more confident, more over just stop with the whole comparaisons with others, your best friend can do more than you do or your sisters or close people, this will always keep you feeling inferior and the most important thing is to find courage to share your authentic self and don't have to fake it for deeper connections with others, find something at which you excel, may be you are great with kids and you just don't know that yet, or you are an artistic person; yet you don't know that because you haven't tried it, be more open to new experiences, that's what going to define you as a person, learn to forgive, carrying anger or grief only poisons you, be kind, you might don't know that but every one is fighting sort of battle, be less judgemental on your self and others and last realize that you can't please everyone, not every one will kill you , you won't like every one you meet, that's perfectly fine, be ok with that. Don't ever criticize yourself, don't go around all day thinking "i'm fat" "i'm not smart" or "i'm slow", if you don't love your self in the right way, you won't be able to love your neighbour; you can't be as good as you are supposed to be. Stop hating your self of what aren't, ans start LOVING YOURSELF for what you are. :)

Friends! real friendship! :)

Friendship!

First, I'm going to talk about the importance of friends in our lives; as we all know friends make life more fun, it's a truth besides walking in a dark with someone; a friend is so much better than walking alone in the light. There's nothing on this earth is to be prized than true friendship; it's not something you learn in school, yet if you haven't learned its meaning....you really haven't learned anything.Friendship is about timing, sometimes being a friend means mastering the art of timing, there's a time for silence, a time to make jokes, a time to step back and let go and allow people to face there own desteny by themselves, and there is a time to prepare to pick the pieces when it' all over, a lot of people don't value real friends, they ignore the fact that nowadays it's rare to find true friend and it's hard to keep it, one loyal friend is worth ten thosend relatives, that's what they don't seem to fully understand.

 Now how about being a friend! a real one?every one is looking for a true friend but we usually forget our parts as ones, and we overlook that the only way to have a friend is to be one. It doesn't take so much to be one, just drop the many personalities you perform outside with work , life, a true friend is the person who allows you to be the real you, not somebody else, it takes caring to be a genuine friend, to ask when his gone. Always be there even in silence, be kind and listen, fun, light, serious when needed, don't be scared to tell the truth no matter how difficult it may be, guide your friend when it's needed with your honest opinion,  be who you truly are, be that vulnerable, and provide the other person space, safety and choice to do the same, be genuinely happy when they get, recieve or achieve something you truly desire, share the truth in your heart, without the fear of misundersatndings, be loyal and forgive but above all, love and respect, accept the person as they are, as an andividual, without conditions, as important as it's for you to be there for them, you have to be willing to let them be there for you, and most important thing remain a friend to them despite a person's life choices and don't bail on them, walk into there lives when every one walk out. It's not hard to be a real friend, it doesn't take time or money or efforts.


 Now, I will talk about two words that we often hear, acquaintances and friends, there's a difference between the two words that we must understand, the first one are the people we know, from the places we go to or where we work or from our local neighbourhood. We can meet them on a family occasions. Whe see them around in the high school playground and we say "hello, how are you?"
and the difference between the two words is simply that friends are the people we like a lot, perhaps we don't like everything about them but like I said before we accept them and we feel positive about most of their characteristics. So know the difference between the two words, because you don't want to think that your a friend of someone while your just an acquaintances! or to think you have a friend while his just an acquaintances  ;) 
The question we should ask ourselves when picking a friend is that would you like to be that friend for someone else!
you should be able to answer Yes!
 Friend is the one who brings the best of me, remeber that when chosing your friends.

At the end, remember what Oprah Winfrey said; "Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down", because real friends don't let yoy go how matter the things went wrong with you.

let's talk about life!

life!

I was going to talk about Life but then i thought what do i know about it! some facts; may be! but not every thing!
I remember i read before and i quote "Life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced"life is all about experience; whom do u meet, the things you see, you like or hate. To wise people life is a dream, it's a game to the fool, a comedy to the rich and tragedy to the poor, but the truth that we all know you can't know what will happen tomorrow, you can't predict it , all you can do is hope that it'll be batter then today and wish that you'll have power to face what ever is coming because nothing in life is guaranteed, it's such a crazy ride.
It's a journey that starts the moment we opned our eyes at this world, and every one was happy, they gave us names, hold us, loved us, and may be made a huge plan how our lives is going to be. When we faced our first problem; with friends or school, they told us that it's not scary, they been in the same situations before, although i don't believe that now it's a diffrent time, in the past people didn't use to judje so much, not from the first look also they didn't care about how the people around them talked or wore, nowadays it's all about looks, not the souls, so did "life" change or just its people!
I guess we can all agree that people changed not life, our world witnessed an enormous devolopment, yes! it helped us yet it caused some problems, now at schools, work places, street, people no longer endure each others , we hear about disputes between close friends, even families, that can reach to hurting more over killing each other, I konw this happned also in the past, but i'm talking about the the numbers, then we say it's life...it's complicated! No it's not, it's just that we are so convinced that it is, we try so hard and we insist on making it complicated for our selves, people around us!
And it doesn't matter how you define "life" if you see it as a dream then realize it, a game;play it, a song;sing it, a challenge;face it, a sacrifice then offer it.
You can see it as an adventure it's one of the ways to get the most out of it, an adventure that allows you to meet people, discover, live, enjoy, and in the way you create your self base on the expercience you get, may be a joy or a sad time, betrayal, failure or success, this build you up as a humain, and the privilege of a lifetime is just being who you are not somebody else! because like it or not, you aren't perfect you'll make mistakes yet if you learn from them you'll be a better person; it's how you handle adversity, not how it affects you more over changes you, beside those who deceive you don't leave you empty handed because now you have a lesson to learn from this deception, since it's not whether you get knocked down, it's whether you get up, and it's all up to you, and having enemies in life it's not that bad because it means you stood up for something you belived in sometime in your life, and not all people can do that, so do not dwell in the past so much, do not dream a lot of the future and concentrate your mind on the present moment.
 Let your prime purpose in this life is to help others in any way you can, if you can't help them, at least do your best not to hurt them!.

To Fit In

To fit in !

That’s what all of us are looking for , don’t deny this, it’s a fact ! because we’re coming to this world that some think that it’s unfair but the only reason they are thinking this way because the problems they face each day ; may be they have problems at school ; or work ;or even home !

We’re not the same person , all of us are diffrent, no one is similar to the other !

High school is one of the biggest place we see this diffrence between students, let’s say that someone new comes to this high school, there’s a lot of possibilities may be he or she will be accepted due to the car or the brand clothes they own, or they’ll be totaly  rejected in the  high school society just because they don’t have new fast car or pretty clothes ; that’s not fair !

No one has to be classified as « cool » just because there parents could buy them « stuff »

What about « brain » or « the inner_person », is our world change this much, that we started to judje people by the « looks », you may assume that this not a real problem, yet it is owing to the damage that occure to someone by rejecting him ; it’s everlasting ; this rejection may build up to be hatred , may be revange, and we all know the stories of high school, and the damage  that lats. It’s not only with teenagers, even at work sometimes we see this hostility between co-workers, sometimes they through a birthday party and don’t invite you , or go to lunch with even inviting you, people should know that these acts are harmful.

Other’s don’t care about wether they fit in or not, to them is’t all about their harmony with few people may be they know, more over their happiness, they don’t care if they are accepted or not ; the only thing that matter to them is the way they think, and how they are free in the way they dresse ; not having to worry about other’s is great thing, but our world require certain manners that we should learn and comply with

but the question remains is that as humain being; should we seek acceptance by others who may or may not like us, or just act the way we want moreover dresse the way we like and not care about fitting or not! that will be a free life from stress, anxiety!
 At the end i want to tell you that to be nobody but your self is so much better than to put on a diffrent mask every day and fake a new personality you probably hate!